Human Sexuality : Passion, Lust & Desire

Human sexuality and intimacy has always been hard for people to discuss in the world. As a result, our sexual wellness has suffered. Possibly even taken a toll. How dare you to want to have healthy intimacy? Right?! Can you easily describe your sex drive, sexual urges, and desires with others without getting or feeling uncomfortable? The language of intimacy can be stimulating, steamy and fulfill sexual satisfaction in so many different various ways and should celebrated like so. Sex relations with a partner is normal and can greatly contribute to one’s sexual health and help one sooner find their own personal sexuality in life. Oddly, we all engage in some form of sexuality but no one wants to talk about it ever especially in public settings or among strangers. 

Even for a sex worker like myself, I have found it difficult at times to express self care and when I feel a sexual urge deep from within. Healthy intimacy starts with discussing sexual boundaries and learning your partner’s needs to reach sexual satisfaction. Good sexual relations help improve reproductive health and also maintains sexual wellness. Not only that but sexual medicine might just be what the doctor ordered and you might not even know it!

Sexual Health : What's A Sex Drive?

I honestly remember growing up and not having one conversation with an adult, or at least someone with a little bit more of sexual analysis to go based on,  about healthy intimacy, sexual pleasure or sexual gratification. I think I could’ve benefited had I known a little bit more about foreplay, sexual behaviors & how adults use & demonstrate sex therapy. At least that way I could of gotten a head start on enjoying sexual pleasure that would have benefited my life, the body, the mind the spirit & so much more. I missed a lot about a lot growing up. As a result, I had a difficult time expressing my own sexuality, sensuality and found it hard to find bodily pleasure growing up as a teen. 

In school, my health class only touched on the reproduction system. Sexual health, sexual healing or even what a sex drive was never got discussed once. Sexual relations were bad and would only lead to pregnancy. In addition, abstinence was the only way for sexual wellness. Because I was never allowed to openly talk about sex it made it that much harder to form good sexual boundaries with partners in the future. 

 

Sexual Pleasure : The Journey To Positive Sensuality

For the longest time my journey to sexual pleasure was delayed, I believe, in comparison to my peers and others whom I hear their stories over the years. I assumed my sexual desire, human sexuality and my deep lust for another was something to be afraid of, that was only for marriage or was forbidden or taboo. As a result, in my mind a sexual urge was immediately deemed as a bad thing. Luckily, I didn’t have to think about it too much. In a nutshell: I never had a first kiss till I was a senior, was a late bloomer growing into my human sexuality, and didn’t understand what a sex act even was. Just completely clueless. Unfortunately, no one ever prepped me on what sexual gratification looked like. 

I remember seeing a sex act scene on TV when I officially realized that a penis went into a vagina. Man, did I feel embarrassed. Understanding reproductive health doesn’t offer much information for sensuality or more importantly my own sexual care for that matter. We didn’t have the internet and I was way too intimidated, shy and didn’t dare bringing up such personal matters to others. I don’t believe this era in my history only affected me. I am sure that many people all over the world had a close or semi close experience as I did. Mostly because the only exposure to such graphic material could be located on an adult paid movie channel, a recorded porn video, a playboy magazine or in a classroom (which barely touched on anything much as is by it’s self). 

Young photo of Jasmin Jai.
Jasmin Jai in high school.
Jasmin Jai and strokies.com
Adult Pleasure

Partly, due to my inexperience in sexuality, made my first encounter with sexual intimacy embarrassing. Nevertheless, we proceeded with it. Both of us were inexperienced. Along with this, we didn’t know how to express our wants and needs. I felt uncomfortable and feared judgement. I am still my biggest critic. As a result, I never could allow myself to let go. Furthermore, I never could receive any real sexual pleasure myself.

Clearly, sexual comfort level was low.  As well as that, I didn’t understand how my body worked. I was deathly afraid of my vagina. I was scared what other thought of my pussy. No one really educated me on the human body. Sexual health and sexual gratification was unfamiliar territory. Without a doubt, this cycle of body shame and unknown sexual self care continues into my adult sexual relations. 

During my early twenties I found it hard to express my true desires. For this reason, my sexual relations were mostly short lived hookups, further hurting my overall sexual health.  I didn’t communicate with partners. I didn’t care if I received sexual pleasure. Sex therapy wasn’t an option I thought about. Consequently, I never felt sexual satisfaction in most sexual relations. 

Following, I got sober and really intimate with myself.

My Sexual Remedy

All in all, sexual healing has come from a combination of sobriety, stripping and porn. Working in adult entertainment has taught me a lot about my own sexuality and sensuality. As a result, I have become more comfortable with my body. Additionally, I have learn to understand healthy intimacy and desire. 

Above all, I remember the true power my pussy holds! Men lust over sensual bodily pleasure. Stripping really taught me guys like different types of women. Every woman deserves sensual well-being between herself and partner(s) and to be in the best state they can with their sexual health.

Sexual health is important. Hence, the important of communication.

Jasmin Jai posing in front of a mirror
SWOP : Sex Workers Outreach Program

SWOP was founded in 2003 in the Bay Area, Sex Workers Outreach Project-USA is a national social justice network. They dedicated to the fundamental human rights of sex workers and people involved in the sex trade. Focusing on ending violence and stigma through education and advocacy is their motto. SWOP helps build stronger communities and a stronger movement through technical assistance, funding, and direct support and advocacy. When it comes to the local level, their chapters address structural, cultural, and interpersonal violence individuals in the sex trade face. They work to change attitudes and policies that deal with human sexuality.

SWOP promotes decriminalization as the best means of decreasing harm and promoting agency amongst people in the sex trade. They adopt the principles and practices of nonviolent action in order to reduce violence and achieve dignity and rights for sex workers. SWOP is committed to the respect, safety, and autonomy of all sex workers and seeks to amplify the voices of those who are often left out of discourse around the issues we address collectively as a social justice movement.
 
For more information on the Sex Workers Outreach Program, sex therapy and how SWOP is helping to spread the importance of human sexuality go to our search index.
Sexual Relations For Work

Not sure what sex work consists of? Sex work is any type of labor where the explicit goal is to produce a sexual or erotic response in the client. It includes prostitution which is pretty controversial for most. However, it also includes a bunch of other things like erotic dancing, pro-dom/pro-sub work, webcam work, sensual massage, adult film, phone sex, being a sugar baby, etc. 

Are you seeking to profit in a new way? Would you be comfortable offering sexual pleasure and giving people all around the world sex therapy? Do what you love! Especially if it is sensual, steamy, stimulating & provides lots of bodily pleasure!

Check out more info on the company I do stripping for HERE!

Sex Therapy : Sexual Wellness For The Mind

There are many online directories that are useful and can search for local therapists. Psychology Today is a good place to start when it comes to sex therapy.

● The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists directory
● The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom kink-aware professionals directory
● Ask your local SWOP chapter if members have recommendations for local therapists who are competent in working with sex workers 

To find out more on SWOP & sex therapy click HERE.
Help to spread awareness about human sexuality!
Sex Therapy can be the start for your sexual health

Follow and Support SWOP online

Sex Workers Outreach Project
http://www.swopusa.org | 877-776-2004 | support@swopusa.org

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